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Checklist of things to take if you leave:

  • Identification
  • Birth certificates: mine, my children's
  • Social security cards
  • School and medical records
  • Money, bankbooks, credit cards, food stamps
  • Keys: house, car, office
  • Driver's license/registration
  • Medications
  • Medicare cards
  • Passports
  • Green cards
  • Work permits
  • Address book
  • Lease/rental agreement
  • House deed
  • Mortgage payment book
  • Insurance papers
  • Current unpaid bills
  • Personal hygiene products
  • Pictures
  • Jewelry
  • Items of sentimental value
  • Children's diapers, formula

How To Increase Your Safety

If you are being abused:

  • Call 911 if you are in danger.
  • Be careful when using the internet, your wireless phone, and GPS devices. All can be monitored by an abuser.
  • Talk with a friend, relative, anyone you trust and think will be supportive.
  • Call a domestic violence hotline for assistance.
  • Talk to a health care provider about your injuries.
  • Call a shelter and find out about options available to you.
  • Talk with a hotline or domestic violence Advocate to help you create a personalized safety plan.
  • Pack an emergency bag containing an extra set of clothing, extra cash, identification (such as birth certificates, social security cards, immunization records), financial records, keys (house/car), address book, etc. Keep the bag in a safe place where the abuser will not find it.
  • Keep a cell phone or change for phone calls with you at all times. (Contact DCADV or a local domestic violence advocate to find out how to get an emergency HopeLine phone.)
  • Remember, you are not alone. No one deserves to be abused.

Increase your safety by:

  • Obtaining a Protection From Abuse Order (PFA) and keeping it with you at all times and giving copies to friends and neighbors to show the police.
  • Doing whatever it takes to form your own support network (attend support groups, get counseling).
  • Changing the locks.
  • Installing as many security features as possible in your home (alarm system, smoke detectors, motion detector lights).
  • Making sure that childcare givers are clear about who has permission to pick up your children.
  • Using an answering machine at home to screen your calls and having your calls at work screened.
  • Avoiding places that the abuser knows you will be (grocery stores, banks, businesses, etc).
  • Letting your neighbors, friends, family, and coworkers know about the situation and asking them to warn you if they observe that the abuser is around.
  • Keeping this information in a safe but accessible location:

Important phone numbers:
Police: 911 or _______________________
Local Domestic Violence Hotline:__________________________
My attorney: ________________________
My doctor: __________________________

I can call these friends or relatives in an emergency:
Name: _____________Phone: _________________
Name: _____________Phone: _________________

I can go here if I have to leave my home in a hurry:
Name: __________ Phone: __________